If you have poorly behaved children and/or parent’s that have no common sense on how to control their children, will anyone volunteer to host the church? And won’t that just kill your meeting times?

From the beginning of the Christian age, socially undesirable people have been welcome in God’s kingdom. Parents who don’t control their children and children who behave poorly both fall into the socially undesirable category. (1 Cor 12:21-26; James 2:5-7, Luke 4:18)

We have an obligation to be considerate, sympathetic, compassionate for those who have problems or are immature (1 Peter 3:8). We are obligated to show hospitality and open our homes even when some of our church family do not treat our property with proper respect (1 Peter 4:9). And, yes, these behaviors will drive us crazy, but in the vein of 1 Cor 12:21-26, we will have to make due because we are one body.

But… We have the obligations to these members of God’s family, our family, to speak plainly to them and explain how their irresponsible behavior is hurting the family and can’t be tolerated (Eph 4:25). We must teach and admonish these members so that they can become useful in the family. The older women should teach the younger mother’s, the older men are to set the right example, and we can’t back down on insisting on right behavior in the church (see Titus 2, especially v. 15).

I know that this course of action will turn people off, but our holiness means that we will follow God’s direction regardless of how socially unacceptable our “discipline” is in these matters.

Editor’s Note: This can be one of the most devisive issues for families with young children. It is important for those who would give instruction to young parents to have a relationship with the parents before trying to give advice.


1 Corinthians 14:21-26 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.

James 2:5-7 Listen, my dear brothers: Has not God chosen those who are poor in the eyes of the world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom he promised those who love him? But you have insulted the poor. Is it not the rich who are exploiting you? Are they not the ones who are dragging you into court? Are they not the ones who are slandering the noble name of him to whom you belong?

Luke 4:18-19 The Spirit of the Lord is on me,
      because he has anointed me
      to preach good news to the poor.
   He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners
      and recovery of sight for the blind,
   to release the oppressed,
    to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”

Ephesians 4:25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.

1 Peter 3:8 Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble.

1 Peter 4:9 Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.